It is normal to start experiencing changes in your sex drive during pregnancy. Yea, it might become low or higher depending on many factors, like your mood, hormones, energy levels, and body changes.
However, studies have shown that most couples have less sex when they’re expecting a baby. Hence don’t feel like yours is any different from other people. It’s okay not to feel the urge during pregnancy.
Below are some changes you may experience at different stages of pregnancy
First Trimester (Week 0-13) and your sex drive
This stage involves lots of bodily changes and adjustments. You may feel:
- Sore breasts
More so, you might feel less interested in any sexual intercourse with your partner. However, you may experience changes in your estrogen and progesterone levels and this can increase you urge for sex during the first trimester.
Second Trimester (Week 14- 27) and your sex drive
Your body tends to have adjusted during the second trimester. Yea, you may not experience those early-pregnancy symptoms anymore, and your hormones may trigger higher blood flow that makes it easier for you to orgasm.
So as your baby grows and your belly pops out, you may want to find the best positions that is comfortable for you to enjoy sex. However, note that it is normal to also feel a decrease in your desire for sex during the second trimester.
Third Trimester (Week 28-40) and your sex drive
At this stage, women face lots of challenges. The body aches, exhaustion, and rapid weight gain can make you forget about sex. More so, it is normal for you and your partner to think of not hurting the baby through sex. But the truth is that, having an orgasm or engaging in sex cannot hurt your baby, except you’re having some problems with your pregnancy.
However, even if you decide to have sec, it may take some time to know the best position that would be comfortable for sex even as your belly grows bigger. And one more thing is that you may get tired easily during sex at this period. This may be one reason why you may not want to get involved at first.
How to handle changes in your sex drive during pregnancy
You or your partner may get frustrated or annoyed if you have less urge for sex during pregnancy. But at this point, it is important to work to strengthen your relationship instead of letting frustration getting the better of you.
You can build more on your relationship by:
Spending quality time with your partner and talking about some important plants you’ve not had time to talk about earlier. You can also try new restaurants or see new places together.
Learning to be patient and understanding that this phase is brief and would only take some few months.
Talking about how you feel and what you’re going through as you don’t get involved in sex as usual.
Your desire or urge for sex constantly changes throughout the three trimesters of your pregnancy. So if you do not have orgasm, note that it normal and not a medical problem. However, you may have increased urge at some point, and if it is comfortable for you and your partner, you can go ahead. But if you doctor has advised you to stay away from sex, take it seriously for your safety and that of your baby. Remember, you can still cuddle, hug, kiss, or get massage from your partner.