If you are new parents to a newborn baby, it is time to begin developing a strong relationship by bonding with your baby. Bonding is the process of development of a close attachment and a strong relationship between two or more people. Bonding can happen within a few minutes, over a few days, or a few weeks with exchange of eye contact, sounds, and touches between parents and the baby. Bonding between mother and newborn baby in the initial days of infancy can help build trust and security. With a good initial bonding with parents, babies grow up to become healthy, happy, independent, and resilient adults.
The following are 5 simple and sure ways to bond with your baby:
1. Skin-To-Skin Contact
Skin-to-skin contact helps your baby become familiar with your touch, smell, and heartbeats, develop a close bonding with you. For this reason, doctors dry babies and place them directly on their mother’s bare chest after birth and cover them in a warm blanket for some time. Skin-to-skin contact also happens when you hold your baby close to your body and during breastfeeding or bottle feeding.
Skin-to-skin contact relaxes and reassures babies, regulates their heart rate and breathing and helps them to better adapt to life outside the womb.
Breastfeeding promotes bonding with your baby. Your baby will become attached to your smell and touch during breastfeeding. Sounds of your heartbeat, your body odor, and skin-to-skin contact give a lot of reassurance to your baby. Skin-to-skin contact happens when the baby snuggles up against your to nurse and he/she hears your heartbeat and smells your body odor.
Bottle feeding also reassures your baby and promotes bonding. During bottle-feeding, your baby will become attached with your heartbeat, smell, and touch and gets reassurance.
3. Eye Contact With Your Baby
Your baby feels calm, soothed, and reassured and begins to bond with you if you make an eye contact with him/her regularly. Making an eye contact with your baby helps him/her to get familiar with you. As newborn babies can see approximately 12 inches in front of them, make sure to hold your baby closely when you make eye contact with him/her.
You can also look into your baby’s eyes while feeding, during diaper/dress changing, and bathing. Look into baby’s eyes during these times. Keeping regular eye contact helps your baby remember you, understands who you are, and begins to recognize your body features.
4. Responding To Your Baby’s Cries
Babies cry when they want something, when they have a discomfort, or when they feel bored. Responding promptly to your baby’s cries makes him/her feels reassured, thinks that you are there for him/her, and begins to trust you. Responding promptly to your baby’s cries is very important for first three months of his/her life for better bonding.
Some people think that they end up spoiling their baby by paying too much attention. It is not true. Responding promptly and attending to the needs your baby will not spoil your baby. It helps you to better bond with your baby by making him/her feel secure and more attached with you.
5. Talking And Singing To Your Baby
Babies love to hear the voice of their mother. Talking, singing, and reading to your baby makes him/her feel secure, happy, and also help you better connect with your baby. Your baby will become more acquainted with your voice if you talk and sing regularly. Talking and singing lullabies deepens the bond with your baby.
Playing or singing melodious music has a very soothing effect on the bodies and minds of babies. Play your favorite tunes and sing along and see the soothing effect on your baby. Your baby will love the music, adore the sound of your voice, and better connect and bond with you.